To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.
I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?
So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-
6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim."
Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)
Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard.
Ok so I’m at Whataburger and I’m eating french fries, right? Well I go to pick up my last fry and
ITS FUCKING PRINTED ON THE PAPER
WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS WHY WOULD YOU HURT ME THIS WAY
Q: What was your favourite "Dammit Jim, I'm a doctor not a..."
fill in the blank sort of line?KU: My favouite one is uhhh "Dammit, I'm a doctor not an escalator!"
I think that's my favourite.
If dudes are expected to have a lot of sex
But ladies are expected to stay virgins until marriage
But homosexuality is bad
I’m really confused who dudes are supposed to be having all that sex with
Guys I got it
Society is literally telling dudes to go fuck themselves
((Why doesn’t this have more notes? The looks of all the different cultures is so beautiful.
IM LGUHAING SO HARD I JUST REALIZED WHEN BELLE WAS SINGING SHE WAS LIKE ‘NEWWW AND A BIT ALARMING’ BECAUSE SHES BASICALLY LIKE ‘OH MY FUCKING GOD I MIGHT BE INTO BESTIALITY?’
in your light, a mix for the queen and her general, for a lifetime of history brimming with friendship, love, and devotion, for their sacrifices of the heart and the stolen moments in between, for countless hours dedicated to the task of putting a smile on his face, for the foolish universal belief that this moment couldn’t possibly be the last, for missed opportunities dressed up as good intentions, for the silence now ruled by regret and a heart that will forever be reigned by her light.
i. if you could only know - emilie autummn | ii. next to me - emeli sandé | iii. smile - uncle kracker | iv. breathless - corinne bailey rae | v. sweetness - pearl and the beard | vi. the truth - india.arie | vii. in your light - gotye | viii. wanted (hunter hayes cover) - savannah outen | ix. she’s got you high - mumm-ra | x. i could fall in love - selena | xi. never stop - safetysuit | xii. un-thinkable (i’m ready) - alicia keys | xiii. you’ll never find another love like mine - michael bublé & laura pausini | xiv. i love you ‘till the end - the pogues | xv. kissing you - des’ree | xvi. best friends - the perishers | xvii. things you’ve never done - passenger | xviii. ghost - indigo girls | xix. world spins madly on - the weepies | xx. gone, gone, gone - phillip phillips
wow ok great I’m already crying just LOOKING AT THAT PLAYLIST COVER
knocking me out with otp feelings